Hello, I’d just like to check in with you today and ask ... what big fat lies are you telling about the future?
Because telling big fat lies about the future is fine, it’s really quite OK, in fact it’s desirable – IF THEY’RE THE RIGHT BIG FAT LIES.
Am I mad I can hear you thinking! Why am I talking about big fat lies and the future? Well, because, when you think about it, THE FUTURE DOESN’T EXIST. It’s not happened yet. It hasn’t arrived. And the past has gone, never to return. The past consists of memories (not all of which, by the way, are always as accurate as you store them – so your past may be full of lies also, but that’s for another day).
So, if the past and future don’t exist, then the future is a blank slate, it’s an empty space a void a place we are travelling to but have not yet arrived at. And our natural tendancy is to fill that empty space, that void, with conjecture of what it might be – in other words, lies.
Anything and everything you say about the future is A BIG FAT LIE.
So when you look at your future what do you see - what big fat lies are you telling yourself about the future? Are your big fat lies, positive or negative? Are they scary or exciting? Sad or happy? Optimistic or pessimistic?
And how real do they seem to you? Do you really believe your big fat lies? Because the more you believe your big fat lies, the more likely they are to come into being – you’re programming your brain to seek and find these big fat lies and bring them into your life.
So, I’d like to ask: if everything you say about the future is a lie, a big fat lie, is your big fat lie positive, hopeful and helpful, taking you where you would love to be, or is your big fat lie, negative, pessimistic and useless, taking you away from where you would love to be?
If everything you say about the future is a lie, a big fat lie, won’t a big fat positive lie, make you feel more positive and hopeful now? And that might be a good thing, because NOW is the only moment you really have.
And a big fat positive lie about the future might actually help programme your brain to create that future for you.
So, please feel free to tell big fat POSITIVE lies about the future. Dream of what you want, rather than what you don’t want: it will help you feel better now and it might even help you create that future you dream of.