Pregnancy is a time of massive physical, hormonal and psychological change as you and your baby develop and prepare for birth. It's a time that sees a move towards changing relationships as couples adjust to becoming parents or growing their family.
The focus during pregnancy is on the pregnant couple who are given support, love and care by friends and family. Mums go to yoga classes, pay attention to nutrition and generally do anything they can to improve their health and wellbeing. Then the baby is born and everything changes: focus is diverted to the baby - naturally so.
But whether you are first time parents or already have children, the demands of a baby can be exhausting and overwhelming.
As a mum your body may take a while to return to normal. Labour can be traumatic, hormones are out of balance - from birth to breast milk flow, oestrogen and progesterone levels plummet to the levels of a menopausal women. It can take months for hormones to normalise, causing mood swings and extreme highs and lows.
As a dad you have to support as best you can, and with mum and baby so connected, you may feel a bit of an outsider.
After birth, the brain changes - in both parents - activity increases in the regions of the brain that control empathy, social interaction and anxiety. So the stress response is heightened in new parents which means that the smallest thing can cause stress in the body. And naturally, the focus is on the baby - so the health and wellbeing of the parents can take a back seat. But parents need and deserve care in those first few months after the birth. And baby deserves healthy relaxed parents.
4th Trimester Reflexology is a way of giving self-care and recovery post-birth. Home visits are available and because Reflexology works on the feet, it's possible to feed during a treatment. Hold your baby while receiving Reflexology and see that relaxation transmit to your baby. For the best possible outcome, book a double appointment so that Mum and Dad can benefit.
Thinking about something different for baby showers - 4th Trimester Reflexology vouchers are available: contact Doris on 07724 197627.
Isn't it strange how things just happen? I've set as part of my goals for this year the twin aspects of clarity and focus (because I get so easily distracted - thank you facebook!). And co-incidentally, as I was scouring google I came across Donna Eden's 31 day eye challenge! Perhaps the Universe is giving me a signal.
I do spend a lot of time on the computer, I can feel that my eyes are not as flexible as they used to be and as I've been wearing glasses for the past 30 years, I thought this challenge might be good and it certainly wouldn't do any harm.
So on 1st January I started the challenge. (Almost) each day of the January I went onto YouTube and spend between 4 and 10 minutes doing the challenge along with some of Donna Eden's students. And I really do feel it's made a positive difference!
Now I can't say that my eyesight has improved (I'll need to wait for my next eye test to know if that's the case), but my eyes do feel more relaxed and lighter and brighter.
I would recommend this routine to anyone who uses a computer or phone for any length of time (which is probably 95% of the people reading this). And I've enjoyed doing it so much that I decided to record a session to share with you. It's easy to do; the sequence is easy to remember; and it can be done in about 4 minutes flat. So, have a watch of my video and next time you're about to jump into the car, or at some point during your working day, take 4 minutes out to do your eye exercises.
I find that the best results happen when you do the eye exercises regularly - it's like any exrcise really - so add it to your daily routine for the best results.
They say the eyes are the window to the soul and my Neuro-Linguistic Programming training suggests that the position of your eyes indicates which part of the brain you're accessing, so the eye exercises might also help to clear negative thoughts and feelings - if you keep it up (as do the Emotional Detox sessions that I offer).
Here's the link if you want to have a go:
Comment below if you've tried it and let me know how you got on.
Have you given thought to what the New Year might bring for you? Are you turning your thoughts to a healthier, wealthier, happier version of yourself? Are you trying to temper those unrealistic expectations
New Year resolutions generally don't work because they are largely a wish list of WHAT you want, without any great detail of WHY, HOW or FOR WHOM you want it. And without asking and answering those other questions, you're unlikely to have the tenacity to keep going when the going gets tough.
If you're not really clear on why you want something, and if that WHY is not really compelling TO YOU then you're likely to find the momentum drops off really quickly. Wanting something because someone else values it is not a great motivator, but if you really, really want it, that motivation is likely to take you to your desired end point. And if the consequence of not getting your desired outcome is negative, then you'll be even more motivated. Knowing why you're sacrificing to get your outcome, will help you though the bad times.
Many resolutions begin with a plan, but if the plan is too tough and the sacrifice too great is will be very difficult to sustain. Will power will only take you so far. Much better to take the long view. If you know how you will achieve your plan, then pick one thing and do it consistently until that action becomes a habit. And give your habit time to bed in - it takes about 3 months to really establish a habit. Pick one small habit every month to establish into your routine and by the end of the year you will have stacked a dozen new habits that have the potential to transform your life.
The reason why habit stacking works so well is that it becomes effortless once the habit is established. The habit becomes part of your routine: you don't need to think about, you just do it.
So, for example, you'd like to get healthier - you're sick and tired of being sick and tired. You want it for YOU - you really would like to feel better and have more energy. The consequence of not having it is that you will continue to feel sluggish, sleep poorly and not enjoy life as you would like to - and that would be bad because you're sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. You decide you need to change it, but HOW? You want to exercise more, eat more healthily, drink more water, and get a better quality sleep. So far it's all fairly non-specific and nothing that falls into a routine. So how can you transfer these into habits? What about, dropping the car off 1 mile from work, so that you have to walk to and from work to the car, increasing your exercise by 2 miles a day? Or start the day with a glass of hot water and swap your evening drink with a glass of water or a herb tea? Or batch cook a pot of soup one day a week, so that you can swap the Greggs baguette for some healthy home make soup? Or book a regular reflexology treatment to help you de-stress, detox and get a better sleep?
Beginning to get the picture? Imagine how your life (and health) would change if you walked 2 miles a day; drank 2 glasses of water or herb tea instead of regular tea/coffee/alcohol; swapped a bowl of soup for your lunchtime bagette; and booked in regular treatments to help you de-stress. And you're only at April! Imagine what habits you could introduce in the rest of the year to transform your life!
Give it a try and let me know how you get on ...
I'm going to cheat this month and share some content, rather than create it myself. After all, why reinvent the wheel. I've just come across this video from Hethir Rodriguez which I thought was worth sharing, so I hope you find it useful.
I run a Fertile Mind & Body Programme which consists of an initial consultation to gather information and formulate a plan of action, followed by 12 weekly reproductive reflexology sessions plus 12 weekly Baby Making Mindset sessions. The normal price for this is £1000, but I'm offering the first 3 participants a 50% discount - how's that for a Black Friday offer!