If you'd like to conceive, I'd ask you to look at all the highs and lows of your fertility journey. I know you'd do anything to get pregnant, so I'd like you to ask yourself ... are you trying too hard?

Trying might not be a useful thing to do, in fact it may actually hinder all your best efforts, because trying is about : endeavour, difficulty, becoming annoyed – or so the dictionary says.  Trying is all about chasing after your dream rather than waiting to receive it. Trying is all about forcing your heart's desire into being rather than allowing it to materialise in it's own good time.  Trying is about control rather than being in a state of flow.

Are you chasing your dream of having a baby rather than being ready to receive with open arms?  May I suggest that this might not be the best strategy.  And here’s why ...

Imaging you were to go fishing.  If you were to go fishing, you’d pack your kit – everything you need to land that prizewinning fish. You’d pick the perfect spot where you know the fish are likely to be. You’d set your bait and cast your line and then you’d sit back and relax and wait for the fish to bite. And while you’re waiting for the fish to bite you’d likely just enjoy being out in the fresh air, in the peace and quiet, giving yourself time to settle and release, and letting your worries and cares wash away.

What you wouldn’t do is: jump into the car with no equipment. Then stop at any old spot without checking first to find out how the fishing was. And race into the water fully clothed, trying to catch the fish with your bare hands! That would just be ridiculous, wouldn't it?

The very act of “trying”, creates a level of stress that is more likely to take you away from what you want instead of closer to it. You effectively create obstacles that wouldn’t otherwise exist as a consequence of your desire to increase your chances of getting pregnant.  You begin to get in your own way!  Can I just say that again, "You begin to get in your own way"!

This is not always an easy concept to process when your sole goal in life is to get pregnant, so please give it some thought.

May I suggest that you might choose to let go, stop "trying", chill and just wait for the fish to bite.  And if you need some help with your fertility journey, check out how Fertility Reflexology could help.

If you want more tips like this, you’ll find them in the Free Baby Making Mindset Club, just go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/1422257428013810/

I've been prompted by some recent facebook posts, to blog about gratitude.  Many of my facebook friends have been posting each day about what they're grateful for and it's really interesting to see that it's not the big things they choose, but the small, seemingly insignificant things that get onto their list.

In our busy lives, full of targets and deadlines, responsibilities and commitments, hopes and aspirations we can sometimes be so busy and stressed that we forget what we have to be grateful for.

When was the last time you paused to be grateful for the food you eat, or the home that shelters you, or the friends and family who support you?

It’s all too easy to take the things and people in our lives for granted, and it can be a real challenge to find time to stop and catch our breath, never mind to stop to cultivate gratitude.

But give it a try, you may find it well worth the effort.  Being grateful for what you’ve got allows you to:

• pay more attention to all the gifts you already have
• evaluate what you have without comparison to others
• appreciate that all you have is a real gift (especially the big stuff like friends, family, health, peace of mind – and sometimes even the bad stuff that might have made you stronger, wiser, kinder)
• have awareness and appreciation for the people and possessions and qualities that fill your life

Every day, write down three things that you’re grateful for and watch your peace of mind grow!

The International Stress Management Association launched their 2008 National Stress Awareness Day with their top ten stress busters:

1. SMILE – it’s quick, easy and free!  When you smile your body releases feel-good hormones.
   
2. EXERCISE – you get a treble whammy through exercise: better health, improved blood flow to the brain, helping you think more clearly and reduced stress levels.
   
3. GET ENOUGH REST & SLEEP – hobbies and holidays counterbalance work and everyday stress and sleep helps restore energy, concentration and general health.
   
4. POSITIVE THINKING – remember external events don’t determine how you feel, rather it’s your response to external events that determines how you feel.  Try adopting a positive response and thinking positive thoughts.  It may take a bit of practice, but it’s worth it.
   
5. REACH OUT TO OTHERS – Make sure you have a support network of friends, family and co-workers you can call on to help take the strain.  And remember to be a good support to them too.
   
6. ACHIEVE A GOOD WORK-LIFE BALANCE – All work and no play makes Jack and Jill a dull boy and girl.  How you spend your time away from work can improve your performance and effect in work.
   
7. RELAXATION – Make relaxation a regular part of your daily routine because relaxation is an easy and effective anti-stress weapon.  Check out the many books, CDs & DVD that can help.
   
8. EAT A HEALTHY DIET – Cutting down on coffee, sugar, alcohol and nicotine will help you avoid mood swings and a balanced diet will have your body functioning at its optimum level and more able to deal with stressful situations as they arise.
   
9. HUGGING – Hugging feels good and has been proven to reduce the stress hormone, cortisone, so make sure you give and get your fair share of hugs.
   
10. SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IF YOU NEED IT – If you’re coping with more than one big event in your life – moving house, divorce, the death of someone close, big issues at work, ill-health – you may be so busy coping with the situations that you don’t notice their effect on you.  Don’t be shy about seeking professional help – your GP, a counsellor, a stress management professional, etc may help you cope better maintain your physical and mental health.

Pick one items from the list and put it into practice and see how well it works for you.

Or you could come for a relaxing Reflexology or Indian Head Massage and let someone else take the strain for a change. Just call Doris on 07724 197627 to book your appointment.  And remember there's a special JULY OFFER: £10 off your first treatment - but only if you book in July (appointments can be scheduled for August).

If you've never tried Reflexology and don't know what it is, here's a brief rundown:

What is Reflexology?

• Reflexology is a complementary treatment - that means it can be used in conjunction with existing medications and conventional treatment plans (mostly).  So, if you're already receiving treatment, Reflexology can support your efforts to get back to health or manage your condition.
  
  
• Reflexology supports good health - as well as supporting your efforts to get back into health, the relaxing and re-balancing effects of Reflexology can help you maintain your healthy state.
  
  
• It's non-intrusive.  You only need take off socks and shoes and other than finger pressure, the Reflexologist will only use a little lotion or talc on your feet.  It really couldn't be more simple.
  
  
• Reflexology is holistic - it works with the whole of you: mind, body and emotions.  So even if you were suffering from a specific physical condition, the treatment aims to rebalance the whole person.
  
  
• Reflexology is the ancient art of foot massage which originated in China and which was also known to the Ancient Egyptians.  It is believed that energy runs through the body in channels known as meridians and that massage of the feet stimulates these energy channels, promoting healing and relaxation.

How does Reflexology work?
Reflexology uses finger pressure on the feet to relax and re-balance the whole person in mind, body and emotion.  It works on the principle that various parts of the feet relate to corresponding parts of the body and that by working on the feet the Reflexologist can create a balancing effect.  The finger pressure on the feet is firm, so it should not feel tickly.

Who can benefit from Reflexology?
Anyone can benefit from Reflexology: from newborn babies to those receiving end of life care, and anyone in between, but it is particularly beneficial for anyone who is experiencing ill-health and in particular those suffering from stress or stress related illnesses.  There may however be times when it is not appropriate to provide a treatment, so if you're not sure, do ask.

Reflexologists often specialise in particular areas, such as: fertility, pregnancy, babies, children, ageing well, pain relief, sleep, stress, cancer care, and end of life care.

What happens in a Reflexology treatment?
The Reflexologist will take a few moments to gather information about the client's condition (it tends to take a bit longer for the first treatment), and then the client is made comfortable, lying on a special chair or massage table.  It's possible to chat during the treatment, but it's more relaxing to just close your eyes and enjoy the experience.  It's not uncommon for clients to drift off into a light doze.

How will I feel after a treatment?
Well, everyone is different, but generally clients will feel deeply relaxed after a treatment.  Clients often report having had a good night's sleep and a boost in their energy levels after a treatment.  Really the only way to know is to give the treatment a try.

There have been some positive research projects carried out with reflexology; however, as yet, there is not a large enough body of evidence to make clinical claims of effectiveness. 

With ever increasing levels of stress in everyday life, it is important for people to take more responsibility for their own healthcare needs. Reflexology may be one of the ways to mitigate the stresses of modern life.

Reflexology should not be used as an alternative to seeking medical advice. 

The only way to know if Reflexology will be beneficial for you is to give it a try.  If you're ever feeling stressed or a bit out of sorts, think about having a Reflexology treatment to get you onto more of an even keel.  To make the decision easier, I offer £5 off your first treatment.  This applies to everyone, so you don't need a special voucher or ticket, it is just automatically applied when you pay for your treatment.

For July, I'm offering an extra £5 off to all new clients.  That means you get £10 off your first treatment if you book in July.  But this offer only applies to July 2014, so don't delay, book your treatment today by calling Doris on 07724 197627, or email doriswylie@btinternet.com.